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Stupid things I’ve done for guys

Okay, we are all grown here and we know that you cannot buy love, attention or affection. But let’s be honest, we all do things to purposely get the attention of someone. Well after doing some stupid stuff recently, I have decided to share a comprehensive list of my foolish.

1. put it on him **insert two snaps** (I will not explain, don’t ask) – is particularly bad to do because it will go great then his butt will be knocked out, meaning no cuddle time :(
2. buy him stuff when I travel to show I was thinking of him although I have never received even a rock from his trips
3. study because I was trying to impress him
4. skipping studying, waiting for him to call
5. stay up all night talking to him so he could fall asleep on me and I would be worthless for me exam the next morning
6. pretend to be needy
7. pretend to be independent
8. attempt to be domestic
9. become overly involved in his life
10. act like I care that he talks to other girls because technically we are not official
11. foot the bill
12. smile until my face hurts
13. wear cute, uncomfortable underwear
14. wear cute, uncomfortable shoes
15. laugh at stuff that doesn’t even make since
16. pretend to care about whatever they are talking about
17. decode slang
18. decode seriously abbreviated text messages
19. continue to silently be the other woman in front of the main girl
20. hold my tongue and not give him a piece of my mind
21. pretending to be okay with his ridiculous personality
22. sit in a room with a bunch of smoking pot heads
23. literally sleep in the bed with a before mentioned pothead due to lack of other choices
24. put on makeup
25. take an extra shower
26. learn about pop culture
27. wear perfume
28. buy new clothes
29. get my hair done in a salon

30. make funny noises when he puts it on me LOL

31. sit through a dreadfully boring movie

32. hold hands although one of us has a serious case of sweaty palms

33. cleared my schedule

34. forgiven some terrible ish

35. went shopping for his “friends” at Victoria’s Secret

36. Lost my mind in public and straight snapped

37. polished my nails

 

Ways to Love Yourself

My mantra for 2012 is, “LOVE”. I have been trying to incorporate it in all areas of my life and here are some ways I have chosen to apply it to my personal life.

1. Fall in love with yourself.
Find things that you love about yourself. Characteristics. Physical looks. Remind yourself about them. Play them up. Remember that independent of the decisions you make, what you do and what others think of you, your value is intrinsic.

2. Eliminate Self Criticism.
This is the hardest for me to do. I am so judgmental. What I say about other people is just a drop in the bucket to the standards I hold myself to. It is very easy to beat yourself up. Don’t do it! Another mistake is to find yourself worth by comparing yourself to others. “I do this, but at least I don’t do that like so and so.” Not a good idea!

3. Be Kind And Positive.
For me this translates into me being gentle with myself, by physically being gentle and giving myself grace. It creates a positive internal environment, that can then be extended externally.

4. Acknowledge Your Effort.
Give yourself credit for trying.

5. Let Go Of Worry.
Worrying gets your nowhere fast. Either work toward a solution or let it go.

6. Trust Yourself.
I have learn to trust my gut instinct. It is usually telling me something I need to know.

7. Forgive Yourself.
Stop dwelling on your mistakes, make corrections, and move forward. This is easier to say, than to do.

8. Be Truthful To Yourself.
Be objective and honest with yourself. Many times we let our emotions or the emotions of others override what is really best for us. This also applies to our thoughts. We may have a convoluted perception of ourselves and begin to believe that others do to. Don’t blame yourself for every awkward moment. Everyone has an off day and maybe the situation wasn’t really that awkward.

9. Grow Spiritually.
This helps like no other. God is awesome. When you finally realize his love for you is unconditional, it becomes easier to share that same love with yourself.

10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday.
Compliment yourself. Remind yourself who you are and whose your are.

11. Express Gratitude.
Treat yourself. Appreciate yourself. It’s a great feeling to be valued. Value yourself. Become grateful for the qualities that make you unique. Show gratitude for your ability to navigate life and grow.

12. Nurture Your Dreams.
Figure out what you want to do, and pursue it. Make sure your dreams are yours, and not the dreams others have for you.

13. Boost Your Self Confidence.
Whatever it takes to build yourself esteem do it. Believe in yourself.

14. Relax.
Take a second to rest. Breathe. Take in the moment. Reset. Enjoy now, whatever now is.

15. Have Fun.
We all have different definitions of fun. Have fun by your standards.

16. Look After Your Body.
Care for yourself. I know when I take time to care for my body I feel better. It may not happen everyday, but try for once a week to take care of your temple.

17. Learn To See Beauty.
Finding the beauty around you, helps you to find the beauty in yourself. Surround yourself with beautiful people and beautiful things. Remember beauty is not perfection.

This post is inspired by: http://www.abundancetapestry.com/how-to-love-yourself-in-17-ways/

People Remember

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” -Maya Angelou

Death sucks. When others go on it can make you feel left behind. A little lost. Confused. You may even have regret.

At my age death seems so distant. This week has seemed to be the week of death. It hurts. What I choose to do is remember the good in the people that have passed. The memories are of moments that gave me the strongest emotions. I remember feeling cared for, comfortable, important. It wasn’t any huge isolated event or gesture. Many times it is the small gestures, smiles and words that have the most impact. It is an amazing feeling to have someone to confide in and talk to about challenges you are dealing with, someone who allows you the room to grow, and rebel. It is great to have access to someone so rooted and grounded in God as an adviser.

You have made a huge difference in my life indirectly and directly. I appreciate your love.

Ever Been Afraid To Look At Your Phone?

Just a quick one. So im sitting here having a rather serious conversation over text. I realize that its not the reccommended medium to have this type of conversation, however it is the only one useable method at this time. The question was posed for me to explain my point of view about a number of situations, and with as long winded as I am I composed about a 14 text long book about it all. So in the mean time I came up here to write a few blogs as I wait for a response. Then the most anticipated yet unsettling thing happened. My phone rang out about 4 or five times signalling a plethora of messages sent in response.

I shouldn’t fear the response because I know, well sort of know, that the person isn’t hurtful in nature. I shouldn’t worry because I wasn’t rude nor disrespectful in my messages, just explaining my point of view. I shouldn’t fret because in me explaining everything, I made it clear that i was wrong in the situation. However, even with all of these here things… ten minutes later and I haven’t yet looked at the phone. Fearing the inevitable? Sigh, I guess we will see what happens next.

Rough Weekend

Happy Sunday! Well I hope it’s an enjoyable Sunday for you guys. My weekend was most eventful, not in a sense of things that I did, but rather in internal realizations. Have you ever taken a step back from your life to look at who you are, have been, and are becoming, and didn’t like it all that much? I had multiple great conversations with a friend of mine about alot of things going on in my life, and once again I think I need to make some changes. Changes not to get me back on course insinuating that I am off, but rather to just reaffirm a few internal characteristics.

I have never been one to set dates for change or to make slow and methodical alterations. I have always been a bam, here today different tomorrow kind of guy. So tomorrow rises the sun on a totally different outlook, mindset, rules of engagement, goals, and priorities. Lets see how this works out.

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